TAKE A PEEK INSIDE OUR MARRIAGE. LEARN OUR SYSTEMS AND HACKS, WHAT WE FIGHT ABOUT, HOW WE RESOLVE CONFLICT, GUARD AGAINST RESENTMENT, AND KEEP IT HOT ALL WHILE RAISING 5 KIDS.
The show starts. The Discovery+ logo makes that fun sound and zooms across the screen.
Just like that it begins. “Every year, 2 Million Americans renovate their homes,” starts the narrator, the music is intense. The cinematography is beautiful, “it’s one of the most stressful” she carries on ”YOU’RE PULLING OUR HOUSE APART!” interrupts Katherine with a shriek. And there we are.
Our family flashes across the screen.
WE ARE SO CUTE!!
And super in love! And even Wallace F. North joined in!!! Except that less than an hour after these photos were taken I made Katherine cry in the car. Because that’s marriage am I right? Anyone who says it’s not well, either they are lying, or they aren’t “all in” cause loving someone fully and loving yourself fully is super elaborate dance it turns out.
It’s 2022. A fair and equitable marriage should be something that you and your partner aspire to no matter who you are right? I mean you’re a feminist. Or at least in the sense that you believe women deserve the same rights as men. Of course you want your partner to have the same opportunities you do.
And yet…Easier said than done.
I ran away for 3 nights to untangle the gnarly knots in my heart and soul…
I almost went into an explanation of why I needed the time away. But there doesn’t have to be a special reason. I don’t need to earn time to myself. Time to think. Time to rest. Time to dream. Psst. Either do you. Find out how to make a solo retreat a reality.
The show starts. The Discovery+ logo makes that fun sound and zooms across the screen.
Just like that it begins. “Every year, 2 Million Americans renovate their homes,” starts the narrator, the music is intense. The cinematography is beautiful, “it’s one of the most stressful” she carries on ”YOU’RE PULLING OUR HOUSE APART!” interrupts Katherine with a shriek. And there we are.
Our family flashes across the screen.
This is my wife, Katherine. Not only is she hot, and smart, like write books, smart. She’s also the fiercest woman I know. The we should all be just a little bit scared of her, in the best sort of way, kind of fierce. What can I say, I like em feisty.
DO YOU MAKE A “DID IT” LIST?
I don’t know about you, but I always enter the end of the year with a fair amount of angst, especially as a parent it’s easy to end the year feeling at least a little bit like a failure, and 2020 was no different. Until I stop and list all the actual shit I did this year in my annual “DID IT LIST!”
WE ARE SO CUTE!!
And super in love! And even Wallace F. North joined in!!! Except that less than an hour after these photos were taken I made Katherine cry in the car. Because that’s marriage am I right? Anyone who says it’s not well, either they are lying, or they aren’t “all in” cause loving someone fully and loving yourself fully is super elaborate dance it turns out.
I stand drinking my tea (coffee is an after the kids are gone activity) in the front landing and holler up and down the stairs simultaneously (5 kids means we store some of them in the basement rooms, my wife @declaredominion is scandalized by this, this is what I call not being independently wealthy while having 5 children) “IT’S LAAAAAWWWNNNNNDRRRRRY DAY, BRING FORTH YOUR DIRTY UNDERWEAR!” And they all come like aunts with trails of dirty socks following behind them.
T&S are my favorite band. If you know me you probably know this fact more than you’d like to. Their fans have a rather “cult” feeling, that I’m pretty pleased to be a part of honestly.
The truth is that without her, the steadiness and fierceness of her love, I don’t know that I would have found myself. I was way more afraid to admit my transgender identity to myself.
Who would I become. How would I change? Who would I lose?
Everyone, I was sure.
Why did no one say? “You’ll be more frustrated about this than almost anything else in your relationship. But remember to hear each other, really listen, past the fear, and to the value you are trying to teach, focus on that rather than the very specific path you think you should take to get there and you’ll be okay”
Why? Because it’s our wedding anniversary.
And tradition states that I have to write a very romantic post about it. I can write all sorts of romantic things, if I have to. All of those things are true.
This was our mantra as Katherine and I snuck away from our suburban family life for 4, childless nights in the Bahamas.
“But didn’t you just GET back from vacation?!?” I can hear you ask quizzically.
No miggy figgys!!! No, I did not just get back from a vacation, I just got back from a trip! With my kids. Where we do all of the same crap like laundry, and cooking, and fighting over screen time, and bedtimes and all of it, but we do it in a new, more challenging place, without any of our creature comforts!
It’s 2022. A fair and equitable marriage should be something that you and your partner aspire to no matter who you are right? I mean you’re a feminist. Or at least in the sense that you believe women deserve the same rights as men. Of course you want your partner to have the same opportunities you do.
And yet…Easier said than done.