THAT TIME I THREW A FIT AT A TEGAN AND SARA CONCERT
WOW!!! MY FACE HAS CHANGED SO MUCH. LOVE SEEING BABY TRANS ME, IT REMINDS ME THAT I HAVE SO MUCH OF WHAT I LONGED FOR THEN!
Three years ago today we took the three bigs to their first @teganandsara concert.
T&S are my favorite band. If you know me you probably know this fact more than you’d like to. Their fans have a rather “cult” feeling, that I’m pretty pleased to be a part of honestly.
This is where I’m supposed to tell you how awesome it was.
Except the whole thing went sideways.
Tegan and Sara were amazing. Obviously.
I was thrilled. But I also had this strange sense of “WAIT I DON’T KNOW IF I GET TO BELONG HERE ANYMORE BECAUSE I’M A MAN NOW!” internal crisis, having just started Testosterone less than a month before.
Danger had a migraine from the lights, and ended up sleeping in the hallway on @declaredominion@chelseamoriarity and @mscarlaroque lap in rotation. (Not her fault)
Adventure hated how loud everything was, that there were no seats. (Not her fault, none of us should have been surprised by this, we should have brought ear plugs etc)
And then sweet Epic, it turns out he loves concerts and had the time of his life dancing his heart away until a drunk man in the men’s bathroom started screaming at a woman who came in to use one of the stalls because hello Tegan and Sara concert. Epic was traumatized. (Not his fault)
And with all three of them having had enough we packed up and left before they even played “Livingroom.”
If you think this is where the story ends my friends oh no.
Because, NO! I didn’t leave graciously. I had a temper tantrum and vowed never to bring my children anywhere ever again.
(This one was my fault) And Katherine gave me the death eyes and I dug my heels in and so much couples therapy followed.
But why am I telling you this instead of the standard “Remember three years ago when we took the kids to see @teganandsara. What a night!”
Here’s the thing. I had this dreamy night planned in my head, we’d all love it, we’d have this thing to bond over forever! I was sharing a piece of me with them and it didn’t turn out the way I had been dreaming. It was no one’s fault it was just life with kids. And then me not dealing well with what “life with kids” means sometimes and maybe my wife not realizing how important the concert was to me.
(PSA, maybe don’t take them to your FAVE concert to try this out- ‘cause kids. )
None of us are terrible people because it all went sideways. We are just a regular family flawed but full of love.
So often we come on Facebook, or our blogs or the ‘Gram and show only the highlights of our lives, only the shiniest perfectly curated parts and we forget to show our humanity.
When we forget to show all the messy parts we find ourselves feeling so ashamed and alone.
But the messy parts are what make us stronger, and unique and just stunningly beautiful.
The “@teganandsara Concert Fight of 2016” as it is affectionately titled in our home made us a stronger couple,better parents and I think even a stronger blended family (nothing bonds siblings like hate for a parent), so even though I haven’t seen “living room” live since the Closer tour now, I guess it all worked out for the best.
It maybe just took me 3 years to realize it.
Hugs and high fives!