Journal
FOLLOW ALONG WITH OUR BIG, BRAVE, MESSY FAMILY AS WE FIGURE OUT THIS MAGICAL LIFE OF OURS, FILLED WITH LOVE, + HARD STUFF, + MORE CHICKENS THAN YOU CAN SHAKE A STICK AT HERE ON SALT SPRING ISLAND.
SHE DIDN'T HUG ME, ON HER FIRST DAY OF SCHOOL AND IT'S OKAY.
This image was my goodbye.
At first I was indignant! Here I am! Let me celebrate you dammit!!!!
I looked again, swallowed the lump, and waved. She waved back, a smile filled her face, and an ease came over her body. I remember this feeling. In so many ways she is me, she is mine. Being here in this universe with her people is her happy place. She’s safely in her extroverted social butterfly orbit.
I remember these moments like they were yesterday. Sometimes I wish I could do them all over again; or at least remember them better.
HOW DO YOU CO PARENT WHEN YOUR PARTNER HAS ALL OF THESE OPINIONS?
CO PARENTING IS HARD!
Why did no one say? “You’ll be more frustrated about this than almost anything else in your relationship. But remember to hear each other, really listen, past the fear, and to the value you are trying to teach, focus on that rather than the very specific path you think you should take to get there and you’ll be okay”